Tag Archives: Relationships


Dealing with Difficult People

We are all a bunch of programs. These programs are transferred from generation to generation through genes and culture. Some of these programs are very basic. On a deep level, we all want to survive and reproduce. A lot of our behaviors stem from those two basic instincts. We share those instincts with other animals. […]


Two Critical Success Skills You Must Develop

This week is an intense one for me because I’m visiting my parents. It’s easy to get triggered and get into arguments with them. Those arguments aren’t about anything essential. My parents just like arguing. That used to bother me, but now, I feel better about it. I understand them better thanks to a post […]


The Critical Principle You’re Violating

There’s a simple principle that gets violated often nowadays. This principle is a critical one in our personal and professional lives. It’s one of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I’d call it empathy, but I’ll use Stephen R. Covey’s definition. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. Covey divides the 7 habits […]


Personal Development Can Be Detrimental to Your Self-Esteem

And this is what to do about it. We, personal development enthusiasts, are usually very harsh on ourselves. We set very high goals. We are never satisfied with our progress. We are critical of ourselves, finding flaws in ourselves and in our lives. Once we fail to achieve our audacious goals, we ignore the progress […]


How to Develop Superpowers in Business and Relationships

It all comes down to one simple principle. The pain and pleasure principle can be used to understand all human behavior and to modify our behavior. This is a superpower in itself. Today, we are going to go one step further and discuss how we can use this principle to modify the behavior of others, […]

Burak Bilgin

Software developer with a Ph.D. and 15 years of experience. I write daily on personal development and life lessons. Sign up to my email newsletter to receive a weekly roundup of my latest posts.