Tag Archives: Emotional Intelligence


A Simple, Easy, Powerful Way to Release Your Unpleasant Emotions

Yesterday, I shared a powerful yet simple method to let go of your unpleasant feelings. This method is based on focusing your attention on the physical sensations that feeling creates in your body. You don’t pay attention to the thoughts that are triggered by that feeling. You don’t label the feeling. You focus on the […]


Surrendering to Success

What comes up to your mind when you think about a successful person? A hard worker who forces themselves to work day and night? Self-discipline, lots of stress, even anger? Aggressive, competitive, argumentative? A take no prisoner approach to life and work? A go-getter? Sure, that’s a way to become a success if you manage […]


Why Does No One Care?

If you ask a why question to yourself, ask yourself whether you’re really interested in finding an answer or you’re just venting off. Asking why questions repeatedly can be helpful to find the root cause of a problem. You can solve a problem by addressing its root cause. If your problem is drinking too much […]


Beyond Awake

For the sake of simplicity, let’s define two degrees of awareness, asleep and awake. When you’re asleep, you aren’t aware of much. When you’re awake, you’re aware of your environment and yourself. What if there was a degree higher than the state of being awake? That degree is called meta-consciousness or metacognition. When you reach […]


If You Don’t Know What You Want in Life, Read This Post

When someone says that they don’t know what they want in life, I call BS on that. We all know what we want in our lives, but some of us don’t dare to admit it, not even to themselves. Let’s start with why they don’t do that. David Hawkins introduced the map of consciousness in […]


Discharging Negative Emotions Trapped in Our Psyche

Yesterday, I wrote an introductory post about the letting go method by David Hawkins. The letting go method is a simple and effective way to process and regulate intense emotions. It involves staying with the emotion without expressing, suppressing, or trying to change it in any other way. When you stay with an intense emotion, […]


Self-Coaching on Multiple Levels

Once in a while, you might come across a challenge that has solutions on different levels. Moreover, this challenge might point to a bigger problem on a deeper level. Today, I’m going to work on a challenge that I had recently to give you an idea of how to process issues on multiple levels. Last […]


The Reason and the Remedy of the Most Common Communication Problem

Google is great if you know how to formulate a relevant search query. To do that, you need to have some knowledge on the topic such as basic terminology. In other words, you need to know what you don’t know to search for it on Google. Most of the time, we don’t know what we […]


Equanimity: A Key Factor in High Performance and Success

According to Wikipedia, equanimity is a state of psychological stability and composure which is undisturbed by experience of or exposure to emotions, pain, or other phenomena that may cause others to lose the balance of their mind. Can you see how crucial equanimity is for high performance and success? Hardship Is a Part of Life […]

Burak Bilgin

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