Pain, Pleasure, Satisfaction, Mental Toughness, Success

We, humans, are hardwired to avoid pain and seek pleasure. This simple principle was a wise rule of thumb before the civilization. Our environment provided us with sufficient challenges to deal with. This is not the case anymore. Civilization brought us abundance and removed pain from our daily lives. This is good news on the […]

Breaking Free from Childhood Hurts

It doesn’t matter that we are adults now. We still perceive the world through the lenses that we have developed in our childhood. We behave according to the belief systems that we have formed in our childhood. Our unprocessed psychological scars from our childhood affect the way we perceive the world and the way we […]

Eliminating Self-Sabotage from Your Life

Yesterday, I shared the dynamics of self-sabotage. Self-sabotage occurs when our deep-seated beliefs are challenged by the reality. Unconsciously, we’d rather experience loss, failure, and pain than to see our beliefs invalidated. If you think that you don’t deserve a promotion, you’ll set yourself up for failure when you receive one. Self-sabotage is an unconscious […]

The Dynamics of Self-Sabotage

We’d rather experience failure, loss, and pain than seeing our beliefs invalidated. As a result, our lives are a manifestation of our beliefs. That’s good news and bad news at the same time. Let’s start with the bad news. Most of our beliefs are unconscious. So, we aren’t aware of the beliefs that shape our […]

Tap into Your Genius by Optimizing Your Mental and Emotional States

If there was a mental and emotional state that improved your creativity, your ability to think rationally, analytically, and critically, and as a result improved your cognitive performance, would you be interested in getting to know it and doing your best to get into it? In my experience, there’s such a state. It is equanimity […]

A Simple Mind Programming Exercise to Break Bad Habits

When we think about motivation, what comes up in our minds is positivity, energy, and feeling good. Think about a mascot and cheerleaders cheering up a whole stadium of sports fans. There’s also a dark side of the motivation, which involves all kinds of negative emotions such as fear, anger, and disgust to encourage high […]

24 / 7 / 365 Productivity

When we’re thinking about productivity, the first thing that comes to our minds is work. From that context, being productive 24 / 7 / 365 is impossible. If we define productivity as making the most of our lives, then 24 / 7 / 365 productivity is possible. It’s not easy, but it’s definitely within our […]


When you google the words subliminal, subconscious, and unconscious, you get the following definitions. subliminal: (of a stimulus or mental process) below the threshold of sensation or consciousness; perceived by or affecting someone’s mind without their being aware of it. subconscious: of or concerning the part of the mind of which one is not fully […]

Law of Attraction or Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

Does law of attraction work? Does believing in a future event increase its likelihood? Can you improve your chances of success by visualizing it? Contrary to the opinions of diehard believers or skeptics, the answer is “it depends on the context.” You’ll probably not win a well-designed lottery game through visualization. However, if your success […]

A Six-Step Self-Coaching Template to Solve Your Persistent Problems

There’s no human life without any challenges. If you don’t have any challenges now, you’ve probably retreated to your comfort zone. I’ve got bad news for you. The challenges that you’re avoiding now will eventually find you. You might be on the other end of the spectrum, and your life might be full of challenges. […]

Burak Bilgin

Software developer with a Ph.D. and 15 years of experience. I write daily on personal development and life lessons. Sign up to my email newsletter to receive a weekly roundup of my latest posts.