And this is how to set yourself free. Right now, your life is perfect. How do I know? If it wasn’t perfect, you would have already changed it. Every change you want to make comes with its benefits and costs. You look at the benefits and you desire them. But deep down, you are aware […]
Even the Most Irrational Ones You need to get this principle to understand human behavior. Not only other people’s behavior, but also your own behavior. Especially, your own behavior. Sometimes, you might have a difficult time understanding someone’s behavior. Sometimes, you might have a difficult time understanding your own behavior. Not anymore. All human behavior […]
Personal development literature provides us with lots of cookie cutter solutions to our daily challenges. Sometimes, it’s better to develop our own solutions by reflecting on our own psychology. Here’s an analysis that I made on myself. You can do the same analysis on yourself to find out why you procrastinate and how you can […]
Our mind consists of two systems, a conscious system and an auto-pilot system. We spend most of our time in our auto-pilot system, which I dub Goliath. Our conscious system is intelligent, but not energy efficient. Therefore, we avoid using this system to the extent possible. I call this system David. Most of the personal […]
The more I write about personal development, the more I appreciate the book Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman, a Nobel Laureate in Economics. The paradox explained in this book might as well be the biggest paradox of mankind. It might explain why we are still struggling in our lives as individuals and as […]
There’s no doubt that having a direction in life increases your chances of success and satisfaction in life. I already shared an exercise about how to find your north star by writing your own obituary. It boils down to answering the following question. “What kind of a life would you like to have lived at […]
Our mental programming has a great impact on our lives. That is good news and bad news at the same time. It’s bad news because of the following reasons. Our programming is mostly not our conscious choice. A significant portion of our programming is not based on facts. A chunk of our programming is counterproductive. […]
Most of the time, the obstacles between us and our most ambitious goals aren’t real but fictions of our mind. I know that too well. At a certain moment in my life, I faced two options. I either had to climb a two meter high fence and jump over it, or I had to stay […]
“Writing your obituary might as well be the most important thing you do in your life.” In order to live a truly meaningful life, you need to know where you’re going to. You need to have a direction, a life goal, a north star. The best way to find your north star is to imagine […]
We humans assume on an intuitive level that our minds consists of a single, monolithic entity. In reality, there are multiple entities active in our consciousness at different moments. Nobel laureate economist Daniel Kahneman identifies two main systems in his book Thinking Fast and Slow. System 1 is the autopilot state. It’s active all the […]
