I just read a blog post by Aytekin Tank about why self-help doesn’t work. There are some truths in that post. Yet, I wanted to publish a response to express my objections. Let’s discuss some of his arguments. What works for everyone is different. Therefore, self-help content won’t work for you. I partially agree with […]
I’ve been blogging on a daily basis since December 2017. There are more than 300+ posts in my blog. Some of these posts received no views at all, others thousands of views. Yet, I have a burning question about my posts. Did my posts make a positive impact in the life of a person? If […]
I remember buying my first iPhone, installing a to-do list app on it, and filling it with literally thousands of things to do. Of course, I never had the time to do all of those things no matter how hard I worked and ended up uninstalling that app and deleting all the to-do items with […]
Yesterday, I received a question from Quora that resonated with me. Here, it is. “What should I do? I feel weak and dumb because I am a young computer scientist and I think I can’t help people in difficulty.” The Messianic Stage We all go through a developmental stage that Jordan Peterson calls the Messianic […]
Sentient beings, including humans, are mostly motivated by the principle of pain and pleasure. I want to add two variables to that formula, the belief in one’s capability and the perceived pain of taking action. Motivation = Actual or Anticipation of Pain + Anticipation of Pleasure + Belief in One’s Capability – The Perceived Pain […]
The basic premise of economics is that we have unlimited desires but limited resources. That means we will experience the pain of failure, disappointment, or rejection sooner or later if we haven’t already done so. How do you deal with the pain of failure, disappointment, or rejection when you experience it? Do you deny it […]
When I observe myself, I recognize two states. The first state involves productivity, happiness, bliss, joy, peace of mind, and mental clarity. The second state involves negative thoughts and emotions, feeling down and depressed, lack of energy, lethargy, and mental fog. As you see, both of those states involve physical, emotional, and mental symptoms. In […]
Once in a while, you might come across a challenge that has solutions on different levels. Moreover, this challenge might point to a bigger problem on a deeper level. Today, I’m going to work on a challenge that I had recently to give you an idea of how to process issues on multiple levels. Last […]
We, humans, are hardwired to avoid pain and seek pleasure. This simple principle was a wise rule of thumb before the civilization. Our environment provided us with sufficient challenges to deal with. This is not the case anymore. Civilization brought us abundance and removed pain from our daily lives. This is good news on the […]
Yesterday, I shared the dynamics of self-sabotage. Self-sabotage occurs when our deep-seated beliefs are challenged by the reality. Unconsciously, we’d rather experience loss, failure, and pain than to see our beliefs invalidated. If you think that you don’t deserve a promotion, you’ll set yourself up for failure when you receive one. Self-sabotage is an unconscious […]
