Tag Archives: Mindset


The Dynamics of Self-Sabotage

We’d rather experience failure, loss, and pain than seeing our beliefs invalidated. As a result, our lives are a manifestation of our beliefs. That’s good news and bad news at the same time. Let’s start with the bad news. Most of our beliefs are unconscious. So, we aren’t aware of the beliefs that shape our […]


Self-Programming

When you google the words subliminal, subconscious, and unconscious, you get the following definitions. subliminal: (of a stimulus or mental process) below the threshold of sensation or consciousness; perceived by or affecting someone’s mind without their being aware of it. subconscious: of or concerning the part of the mind of which one is not fully […]


Law of Attraction or Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

Does law of attraction work? Does believing in a future event increase its likelihood? Can you improve your chances of success by visualizing it? Contrary to the opinions of diehard believers or skeptics, the answer is “it depends on the context.” You’ll probably not win a well-designed lottery game through visualization. However, if your success […]


Bridging the Gap between Your Expectations and Your Reality

As a computer programmer, I’m inspired to apply software development, engineering, and problem-solving ideas in my life. Today’s post will be about one of those ideas, test driven development. In the traditional software development process, the implementation precedes the tests. This is the intuitive way of programming because most programmers tend to write their functional […]


The Dark Side of Motivation

“Do what you love, and the money will follow.” “Follow your passion.” “Get into the feeling of the wish fulfilled.” These are some quotes from the positive thinking, feel good, self-help literature. They might or might not work you. But there’s another side of motivation that isn’t much talked about. Yet, it can be dangerously […]


Your Perception of Reality Is Skewed

Here’s How to Fix It. Back in the day, when our ancestors had to survive in the wilderness, they had to take every threat seriously. In those days, the humans who expected the worst and prepared for it survived and passed their genes to the next generation. As a result, we inherited the negativity bias […]


Success Is Making Unknown Known and Creating Order out of Chaos

In the last few weeks, I was listening to several podcasts by Joe Rogan with Jordan Peterson. Peterson says that our lives go back and forth between the domains of chaos and order. You’re in the domain of order when your actions produce the results that you expect. You’re in the domain of chaos when […]


You’re An Idiot. And That’s Great!

If you’re like the average person, you’ll be insulted by the title of this post. If you aren’t, that’s great because that means you’re open-minded and ready for improvement and growth. Think about all the information available to us. How much of it do you know? If you’re realistic, your knowledge is negligible next to […]


Your Definition of Toughness Doesn’t Serve You

What comes to your mind when you hear the word toughness? The stereotypical guy who wears leather jackets, rides a motorcycle, eats meat, and drinks beer? If that’s so, you define the word tough as “prone to violence.” Needless to say, that definition won’t help you much in today’s society. If you think you’re tough, […]

Burak Bilgin

Software developer with a Ph.D. and 15 years of experience. I write daily on personal development and life lessons. Sign up to my email newsletter to receive a weekly overview of my latest content on personal development and life lessons.