Why You’re Stuck and How to Get Unstuck

In an interview on Impact Theory, Joe Dispenza explains the link between the thoughts in our mind and emotions in our body.

There’s a positive feedback loop between our thoughts and emotions. Our thoughts trigger emotions in our body, and our emotions cause thoughts in our mind.

For example, when you think a sad thought, you feel depressed. Those emotions trigger other sad thoughts, which in turn make you feel more depressed.

If you repeat that cycle enough times, it gets reinforced in your body and mind. A feeling turns into a mood. A mood turns into a temperament. And a temperament turns into a personality trait. Eventually, it becomes your identity.

Your Reality Is Influenced by Your Feelings and Thoughts

Feelings and thoughts influence the way you perceive the reality, the choices you make, and the actions you take. Your choices and actions have a great impact on your reality.

If you don’t pay attention to your thoughts and emotions, you’ll repeat the same thought and emotion patterns over and over because of the feedback loop.

As a result, you’ll keep perceiving the world the same way, make the same choices, and take the same actions. That’s the mechanism that keeps you stuck in a certain life situation.

“95% of who we are by the time we are 35 years old is a memorized set of behaviors, emotional reactions, unconscious habits, hardwired attitudes, beliefs, and perceptions that function like a computer program.” Joe Dispenza

How to Get Unstuck

The way to get unstuck is to perceive the world differently, make different choices, and take different actions than your default ones.

To do that, you need to change your thoughts and emotions. That’s a challenge because you have a default program in your body and mind.

That default program is producing the same thoughts and emotions over and over, day after day. To break that cycle, you have to make a conscious effort to be aware of your thoughts and emotions.

Letting Go of Dysfunctional Emotions

When you feel dysfunctional emotions, you need to stop your mind from creating thoughts that feed on those emotions. You don’t have power over your emotions, but you have control over your thoughts.

When a dysfunctional emotion hits, just sit with it without investing any mental energy to the thoughts that feed on that emotion.

Don’t act on that emotion. Don’t try to escape it or change it in any way. Let it be there. It will come, and it will go. This is called the letting go technique.

As you don’t react to that emotion, its intensity will gradually diminish, and the dysfunctional pattern will eventually disappear.

Install Positive Thoughts and Emotional Patterns

As you let go of dysfunctional thought and emotion patterns, you can install positive ones in place of them.

You can do that by visualizing positive outcomes and getting into the feeling of those outcomes. If you repeat that enough, you’ll change your thought and emotional imprints over time.

That will affect the way you perceive the world, the choices you make, and the actions you take. And as a result, you’ll get unstuck and change your life for the better.


Our reality is influenced by our choices and actions, which in turn are affected by our thoughts and feelings.

Most of our thoughts and feelings are repetitive patterns. That’s why we make the same choices and take the same actions day after day. That’s how we get stuck.

The way to get unstuck is to be aware of the dysfunctional thought and emotional patterns, let them go, and install positive thoughts and emotional patterns in their place.