We create our reality with the choices we make and the actions we take. Our choices and actions are determined by our thoughts and feelings. Most of our thoughts and feelings are repetitive.
Our emotions are saved in our unconscious mind, which plays them over and over, day after day. Our emotions trigger the same thoughts, which in turn reinforce the same emotions in our psyche.
As a result, we make the same choices and take the same actions, and create the same results in our lives. That’s the mechanism that keeps us stuck in our lives.
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Anonymous
The Way to Get Unstuck Is Simple
When you look at the mechanism of staying stuck, getting unstuck is pretty obvious. Simply, change your habitual emotions, thoughts, choices, and actions.
You can use the letting go technique to change your habitual emotions.
To change your habitual thoughts, you need to determine the underlying mindset and replace it with an empowering mindset. The growth and abundance mindsets are examples of empowering mindsets.
I plan to write more about empowering and discouraging mindsets. If you’re interested in that topic, sign up to my email newsletter.
Changing Your Habitual Choices and Actions
The simple practice I’m going to share today is about changing your habitual choices and actions. In this practice, you ask yourself a question every day.
What did I do differently today?
It’s as simple as that. If you want to achieve different results, you need to do something different right? So, what was it that you do differently today? Nothing? Then, what will you do differently tomorrow?
Be Honest with Yourself
When you ask yourself this question, you have to be honest with yourself. You know on a deeper level that the following answers won’t cut it.
- I scrolled down the Instagram feed instead of the Facebook feed.
- I watched a different TV channel today.
- I hung out with different people.
We’re looking for more drastic changes.
- I read a book instead of scrolling social media feeds.
- I spent quality time with my family instead of watching TV.
- I took an evening class instead of hanging out with people.
Expect a Backlash from Your Psyche
If you do that, expect a backlash from your psyche. Your unconscious mind is used to your habitual patterns and will ask for the same experiences over and over, day after day. If you don’t give them to it, it’s going to wreak havoc.
To mitigate the side effects of the change, you can use the 1% improvements method. The 1% improvements method involves making small changes repeatedly over time.
Those changes accumulate and compound over time and create enormous transformations. If you improved your life 1% every day, you’d improve your life 38 times in a single year. So, don’t underestimate the 1% changes.
Take It to the Next Level
If you want to take this practice to the next level, commit to doing it every day for a year, and keep a log of the changes you made.
Do one thing differently every day for a year, and write it down as a single sentence in your log. You’ll see your life being transformed at the end of the year.
Conclusion
The way to getting unstuck is simple. You simply change your habitual emotions, thoughts, choices, and actions.
You can’t change all of that overnight unless you experience a dramatic breakthrough. But you can change them over time by making small improvements. Small, consistent improvements over time add up and result in great transformations.
You can change your emotions with the letting go technique. You can change your thoughts by becoming aware of the underlying mindset and adopting an empowering mindset.
And you can change your choices and actions by asking yourself a simple question every day.
“What did I do differently today?”
Burak BilginSoftware developer with a Ph.D. and 15 years of experience. I write daily on personal development and life lessons. Sign up to my email newsletter to receive a weekly overview of my latest content on personal development and life lessons.