Take Control of Your Life

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one […]


Do You Want Happiness or Do You Want Success?

Can you be successful and happy at the same time? The answer depends on what you understand from the word success. My definition of success is expecting high performance from myself and others, and getting extraordinary results in life. If you sign up to that definition, you’ll likely not be happy and successful at the […]


A Shortcut to Building an Identity for Success

Two months ago, I published a post called Why Your Personal Development Efforts Fail and What to Do about It. In summary, our personal development efforts fail, because they are mostly on an intellectual level. We set SMART goals. We prioritize our tasks. And we schedule our days. All of that is good advice and […]


Dealing with Difficult People

We are all a bunch of programs. These programs are transferred from generation to generation through genes and culture. Some of these programs are very basic. On a deep level, we all want to survive and reproduce. A lot of our behaviors stem from those two basic instincts. We share those instincts with other animals. […]


One Action That Makes the Greatest Difference

12 years ago, my then-girlfriend was about to apply for a job. She asked my feedback for her CV. Back then, I was a graduate student. We used to write academic papers to be published in peer-reviewed scientific journals. In that context, giving feedback meant to correct almost every line of the text. In return, […]


Get the Most out of Your Personal Development Practice

As you read the personal development literature, you might come across various practices and exercises. You might ask yourself “which practice is the most effective one? Which practice should I adopt?” Mindfulness? Setting a major definite purpose? A prioritized action list every day? Periodic self-evaluation? Dive into the personal development literature, and you’ll find many […]


The Courage to Let Go of Your Conditioning

Take a moment to reflect on the following questions. Did you choose your job and income? Did you decide on your relationships? Did you pick where you live? Is your current lifestyle your conscious choice? Did you determine your level of happiness? Did you specify your impact on the world? Or did you just accept […]


Continuous Improvement of Your Life with Self-Evaluation

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” Socrates Do you want to make the most of your life, but don’t know where to start? Do you want to improve the quality of your life, but don’t know how? Do you have a big goal but don’t know how to approach it? Are you stuck in […]


A Simple Shift in Mindset Can Change Your Life

One of the books that made a huge difference in my life is Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck. My whole outlook on life changed after reading that book. Sometimes, an idea is so powerful that reading it once is enough to change your life. Mindset is one of those ideas. Carol […]

Burak Bilgin

Software developer with a Ph.D. and 15 years of experience. I write daily on personal development and life lessons. Sign up to my email newsletter to receive a weekly roundup of my latest posts.